Rehoboam was doomed before he even came to the throne (1 Kings 11).
If only he had listened to his father’s advisors, who clearly sought wisdom from the Lord…
They told him, “If today you will be a servant to these people and serve them and give them a favorable answer, they will always be your servants.” (1 Kings 12:7)
This is in contrast to the advice of the younger generation, who said, “Tell these people…my father laid on you a heavy yoke; I will make it even heavier.” (12:10a, 11a)
In the first example, we see the qualities of a leader who wants to please his people; listen to their needs; perhaps even put their needs first, if this can be understood by “serving.”
In the second, we see a leader who rules by force and by fear; control and “order”…but a kind of order that led to rebellion.