tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post3844173106762199418..comments2024-02-07T11:31:44.141+03:00Comments on On Life in St. Petersburg: The Introvert as ParentElizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15283395756742923658noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-87510849198420567062014-03-30T21:43:17.609+04:002014-03-30T21:43:17.609+04:00Yes, I can only assume it is partly related to Dav...Yes, I can only assume it is partly related to David's personality, because I can't imagine intentionally ignoring him to get a project done. So it must not be that other parents ignore their children. David will gladly go into his playpen as long as someone is playing peekaboo with him or tossing back the toys he throws out! But I don't think he's an extreme adventurer; just social.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15283395756742923658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-36572438386944496742014-03-30T21:40:22.737+04:002014-03-30T21:40:22.737+04:00I didn't know that about you, but I understand...I didn't know that about you, but I understand completely! I like going "out" as long as when I come back I don't have to jump right back into everything. :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15283395756742923658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-89601721077896980882014-03-30T05:19:49.672+04:002014-03-30T05:19:49.672+04:00I can't fathom when they'd do housework ei...I can't fathom when they'd do housework either!! However, I DO remember that I NEVER felt this way with either Aidan or Lydia. I knew at the time that they were "placid" children and not "risk-takers" at all. I could plop them down (say on the kitchen floor) with a book and not worry that they'd be putting a coin in their mouth, unrolling the paper towels, drawing on the wall, tearing pages out of said book, or somehow grabbing a knife! (All in Miss Monnie's repertoire.) I really feel that when I'm with her I have to give her attention. And never in a million years could I do something like put her in a playpen. Yet, both the older ones would happily go into the playpen if I needed to do something tempting (like lay out quilt pieces) on the floor. Really - I can remember doing that, while Aidan cheerfully played with blocks in his playpen next to me. Monnie would have a fit if I "locked her up" while something "interesting" was going on. Yet' with the others it didn't even feel like that! We were just having a lovely time together! Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-89463522697305780442014-03-29T05:38:51.521+04:002014-03-29T05:38:51.521+04:00People do not understand me either--I do not need ...People do not understand me either--I do not need vacation--in fact, vacation can be at home. Ministry events and even coffee out is not down time for me...alone time--that is down time.:)<br />The Herdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04472507772885670488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-29574288537979641152014-03-28T21:41:35.774+04:002014-03-28T21:41:35.774+04:00That all makes so much sense. It is so hard to get...That all makes so much sense. It is so hard to get out of the house! I guess I just want to have it all and I get the idea sometimes that certain moms DO get a lot done and I have to come to the conclusion that it must be a personality thing. I definitely like your goals of keeping your offspring alive and cooking one meal a day. That's pretty much what happens around here, too.<br /><br />Lately I've been posting around 1-2 a.m.and then napping (or trying to) with David in the afternoon, so I get very little housework done. I just seem to be more productive at night!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15283395756742923658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2949422246633548404.post-44254413545701523922014-03-28T04:12:48.488+04:002014-03-28T04:12:48.488+04:00You are not alone, Elizabeth! At this season of my...You are not alone, Elizabeth! At this season of my life with a 3yo and a 9mo I don't get half as much accomplished at home as I'd like. I've had to set aside a lot of hobbies and my art/design projects for the sake of my sanity, but I think some moms view party-planning & working out as their sanity-giving happy place so it's easier for them to carve out time for it. That being said, I have NO idea how they do it. I don't even blog anymore after faithully updating for two years, fail! Even when I had just M I was only able to do the "minimum" haha. In many ways I think having one child was harder than having the two now because M demanded so much social attention from me, being the one at home with her day-in day-out. She's extremely extroverted and extremely busy and I would find myself immobilized by the relentlessness of it all at the end of the day (or middle of the day...in fact it still happens a lot haha!). I think I am on the middle of the extrovert/introvert scale, leaning slightly more towards introversion the longer I am a mother. I often find play dates exhausting, not so much emotionally but just getting the kids out the door at 6am so we can drive my husband to work to borrow the car in the freezing cold, trying to transition them from house to the car again, to the play date, to home to picking up W with screaming kids in the car, trying to juggle meals and nursing in all of that ahhhhhh! For me, staying at home, keeping the kids alive and cooking one meal is all I can handle 95% of the time. Every mom is so, so different with different tasks God has given us. I personally struggle with comparing myself to other moms often. I had a mom friend I admire for her neat house & easy-temperament children tell me she admired me for my "bravery" in allowing my kids to paint, make necklaces out of cereal, play play-doh pretty much whenever--- messes are her biggest frustration! So I guess it's like every mom has different limits, needs, things they are energized by and things that suck the life out of them lol. <br />Sorry for leaving such a rambling comment! I just wanted to let you know you're in good company, being a mommy to a toddler is crazytown (a blessed crazytown, but still crazy). Kudos to Andrei for doing bedtime and giving you book breaks, that's awesome!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com